10 Easy Steps to Writing a Memorable Love Letter

By Bryan Noonan

Perhaps the most romantic and memorable thing you can do in your relationship with your lover is to write a love letter to him/her. Love letters have been used for centuries by famous and not-so-famous people to express their passion and feelings to their love. It's a great idea. The problem is that most of us (especially men) aren't that great at writing love letters and most of us don't even know the first thing about writing in verse (poems).

Here are 10 simple tips to help you get started:

• Be yourself. If you are writing a love letter to someone then you obviously care about that person. Just be yourself and don't try to be someone you are not.
• Write conversationally. If you've browsed the Internet and read famous love letters from years gone by you've probably seen lots of 'thee' and 'thou' and other words no longer in our everyday vocabulary. While these words make a nice famous OLD love letter, they aren't suitable for writing a modern day love letter. You might in fact sound a little ridiculous adding these to your letters. Say something like, "When you smile you brighten up the entire room, driving out the shadows of sadness lingering there and instead filling the room with love and warmth." Don't try to make it 'old' by saying "Thy smile doth brighten the entire room..."
• Be truthful. Don't say things you don't mean. If you really don't think your sweetheart is the most beautiful person in the entire world don't say she is. If you don't think your man is the hunkiest and handsomest person in the universe you better not say he is. Tell the truth. Find something you truly admire or love about your sweetheart and dwell on that. Be honest, but don't always say all you are thinking. "I love the way you care about people and have such a wonderful heart to care for people's needs" is much better than "I love the way you care about people, I just wish you would care about me a little more."
• Handwrite your letter & use good paper. Typing your letter may be easier and email may be the fastest way to transport it, but there is something to be said for a a hand-written letter on good quality paper being delivered in the mailbox. Even if you are married and live together, mail your sweetheart the letter. It'll brighten his/her day like you can never imagine.
• Use appropriate openings and closings. If you've just started dating an opening of "My dearest love, Tina" may be a little overkill. You don't want to scare your romance off. Something a little more tempered like "To Tina, with my affection" may be more appropriate. If you're married or have been dating for some time, you might try a more affectionate opening such as, "My dearest love, Tina" or "To the love of my life". Likewise with closings. If you've only been dating a short time use something like "With my affection", or "Yours truly". Longer relationships can use something more passionate like "With all my love", or "Longing for your embrace"
• Be careful of your grammar and spelling. If your sweetheart is 'more better' at spelling, grammar and punctuation he/she will notice the errors and it will distract from the message. Be sure to use proper spelling, grammar and punctuation. If you are unsure of yourself in this area then type the letter first in Microsoft Word (or the Mac equivalent) and use the spell check and grammar check. Then hand-write for the best affect.
• Use a proper closing paragraph. When all has been said in the letter, end it well. Don't drone on and on, but end with a summary of why you are so in love.
• Decorate or 'memoralize' your love letter. Use a light spray of perfume or cologne or paste a picture of yourself or the two of you together. If you're an artist (even an amatuer artist) add your own personalization through art. Make it uniquely yours.
• Sign your letter. In your haste and love drunk daze don't forget to sign your letter!
• Get creative with the 'envelope'. Use a wax seal if you have it available. Or hand deliver your letter rolled up and tied with a ribbon, or rolled up in a bottle ("message in a bottle"). Find a way to make the delivery unique. Whatever you do, don't email your love letter. Send it in the mail with a stamp if nothing else!

About the Author:

Bryan Noonan is a leading expert in keeping romance alive in your relationships. His monthly newsletter features fresh free romantic ideas, timly articles, and tips for keeping your romance alive.

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